Liar Liar Pants on Fire

I took this picture a few weeks ago while my son Michael was having a chat with his therapist.  He sees a therapist to learn strategies to deal with his anxiety.  The anxiety he feels is directly related to his Asperger's Syndrome.  The more you understand autism, the more you understand why their anxiety levels are so high.  It is a complicated world and we are complicated people.  Navigating the world with unwritten codes of social rules sets him up to fail.

I love how Michael feels so comfortable that he stretches out in the chair - just like all of the therapy sessions you see in comic strips.

I took this photo just for grins, but then I started thinking about what Michael learned this day.  He learned that he spends a lot of time lying to himself.  Know what?  I'll bet you do it too.

Why don't you stretch out on your own couch and think about it.

In Michael's case, he lies to himself about homework, chores, attempts at friendship - those kinds of things.  What he tells himself, however, are the exact same things you might be saying to yourself.

I can't do it.
It's too hard.
I'll do it later.
It's not worth it.
I'll never...

See what I mean?
He stops himself before he even tries.
Homework assignments cause him so much anxiety that he will start crying when I pick him up from school.  It breaks my heart.
Michael sits alone at lunch because sitting by others means conversation and - well, conversation is not his favorite thing.  It's hard for a kiddo with autism.  Others think he just wants to be alone, but the truth is that he just can't force himself to do put the wheels in motion.

If I try, I will fail.

Will you?
Do you look at a monumental task and find yourself overwhelmed?
Do you talk yourself out of even trying?
Do you lie to yourself?

I don't know about you, but this hits home for me.  With Michael, we break down these tasks into smaller steps that we know he will find success in.  Why am I not doing this with my own goals?

Right now, my monumental task is just to get better.  While I'm recovering from shoulder surgery, my energy is focused on better strength and mobility.  I know I have months of therapy ahead of me.  I have many more personal goals that I keep putting on the backburner but for today, I'm making sure I break my day in to segments that allow me to get 4-5 session of therapy exercises in.  As for those personal goals, it helps me to write down all of the things I have going on and then prioritize.  From there I put dates down to give myself a deadline.  Face it, we all love a deadline.

What is your lie?
Have you given up on a fitness or health goal?
Have you quit working on your marriage?
Have you been unwilling to tackle the chore of organizing that messy closet in your house?

Pick a lie.
Think about it.
Change the way you talk to yourself.

I hope you will find a way to change your attitude and tell yourself something more constructive.
I know I'm going to tell those negative voices in my head to shush.  Then, I'm going to pick a goal and get started with it.

How about you?  Care to join me?  What lie are you going to quit telling yourself?

Mrs. Priss

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