Facebook Fauxpas

Faux pas is french for "you messed up". In Okie speak, we pronounce it "Fo pah" - heavy accent on the "Fo" part.

Do you remember when you signed up for your Facebook account?

Did you know it was going to become something that drove your newscasts, business marketing or replace emailing?

How many times per month, per week, per day do you check in with Facebook? Did you know it would require Facebook manners?

Well, much like anything in our lives, Facebook does not come with a license. My friend "Dawn" (who may or may not be a real life or Facebook friend) and I have decided some folks need their Facebook license revoked!

As part of obtaining your new, shiny Facebook account you should have to take a test. This test should keep idiots from Facebook. Since there is no Facebook license, here are some tips I compiled from various on-line sources to keep your Facebook faux pas to a minimum.

A little mystery goes a long way - my Grandmother taught me this fact early in life. We would be wise to apply our Grandmother's wisdom to social networking.

Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you - if you wouldn't want your friend to post an unflattering pic of you don't post a less than flattering photo of your friend. If you don't want a friend to post their snarky, negative opinion on your status update don't post your snarky, negative opinion on their status update. It's really that simple.

Avoid e-misunderstandings- You'd have thought that after 10 years or more of communicating with each other online, we'd have figured out sending simple messages without conveying the opposite of what we intend. Ill-judged photo comments such as, "Haha, you look hawt, LOL!", while possibly intended as heartfelt, comes across as sarcastic. If you feel the need to post your opinion on your friend's status about how she wouldn't be caught dead in green stripes shirts and your favorite thing to wear is green stripes shirts, STOP. Count to ten. Step away from the keyboard and come back when you have cooled off a bit.

Beware of Coo Coo's - No group of people are as eager to seize the chance to relentlessly pester people as Coo Coo's. Look out for the Coo Coo who will post every life event, "Just woke up, I'm now jumping in the shower, Hey I'm eating lunch, and I'm so desperate for attention I want you to know about me ALL the time". These people are attention seekers and will do anything to get it. There will be news of each hourly event, details of boring daily tasks, links to a new pic of themselves every hour, and posts on your wall over and over. A sure sign of a Coo Coo is obnoxiously opinionated or always offended. There is no balance. Refuse the friendship of anyone with Coo Coo tendencies. Trust me. It never ends well.

Leave me alone!- Coping with the deluge of virtual social interaction relies on turning off these forms of communication as much as possible and deleting some social networking friends.

Yes, they might take offense, but don't worry it's better for all involved. And, if you get de-friended – don't be disheartened. It's nothing personal. People can de-friend for all sorts of reasons. They may just become sick of being messaged, poked, invited and flirted with by others, not you. Or, it could be that they just don't like you very much. Again - don't be disheartened, it's for the best. This could be saving you days of heartache.

Try to wait 24 hours before accepting a friend request, so you can think it over. It might be better not to respond at all to a friend request. You can leave it out there in cyberland for as long as you need. Then, nonchalantly, reject their request. They'll cope. It's only social networking, after all. If they don't get over it, then they have proved Coo Coo and you can refer to the paragraph above.

In researching my post, I found this site Facebook Drama. I will be visiting often. They make me laugh.

I also found this post on Facebook Privacy 101 it's from a siteAllFacebook. Go check it out.

The following Facebook Manners PSA features vintage housewife. "Facebook, Your Electronic Friend Generator."


My best and last advice: It's not about YOU, so laugh often. If you find yourself thinking every status update is written directly to you or about you, seek immediate help. 

Use your three life lines: 1. phone a friend

2.ask the audience (which should be a counselor)


If those don't work, please know that Facebook is social media. Those two words put together tell you it's not to be taken seriously.

If you haven't laughed once during this post then you need to see the "seriously" paragraph, you may be an Alice or Timmy. Avoid being a bumble-head like them & check your Facebook etiquette.

“Social media should improve your life, not become your life!”
- Patrick Driessen, Consultant and Executive Coach

"The successful networkers I know, the ones receiving tons of referrals and feeling truly happy about themselves, continually put the other person's needs ahead of their own."

-Bob Burq

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